In the theme of a happening lately I have found the motivation to write this article. With this I hope to reach as many people as possible to discuss what is written here. I am here to talk about the negative effects of what I call social correction.
Social correction is what humans do to show a person how not to act or to act, there are many ways in which this happens and it is done by ones entire surrounding. I am not saying this phenomenon is bad, it is raising a person and teaching morals. When talking about social correction we can talk about passive social correction and active social correction.
Passive social correction is the correction of how somebody looks or acts in a natural way for example if someone has a habit of picking his or her nose we tell them to stop it, also when someone stinks or look bad (because of not paying attention not out of choice) we can tell them to take a shower or advise them on clothing.
Active social correction is the correction of how somebody purposely acts and looks, like we arrest criminals or people that choose to walk around naked in public.
Both of these examples will be acted out quite natural for that is human nature, though here is where the reason for this article starts. What if a person has a passive social flaw that is such a big part of this person that he or she can't change it, how do we act towards such a person. Or even worse, what if someone's active social expressions are denied, while they do not actually cause harm. We can accept these people as people who do not confirm to our social norm. Or we can persist to change their expression inevitably until they change.
This persistence is cause to the core of one of many problems we are facing today, which is bullying. Bullying tends to come from the drive to socially correct someone to one's own social norm when this is done without taking one's feelings and person in consideration. If this happens because of a correctable active or passive personal trait this trait could eventually be corrected and the bullying might eventually stop. But if the trait is not correctable this can be a problem. Now please take in consideration that although active social correction is a choice, people make mistakes and when they are made in the past they might not be fixed.
I would like for the following paragraphs to exemplify each of the past mentioned terms.
The bullying caused by passive social correction that is correctable:
Someone is clumsy and drops things and gets laughed at frequently because the social norm around him is that of a sportive community. In consequence one might lose self-esteem and not do things he or she would otherwise do. Another possible outcome is that the person will train to be agile and not make as many mistakes.
The bullying caused by passive social correction that is not correctable:
Someone is either gay black foreign has a lazy eye, just name it. These people are guaranteed to lose some self-esteem and because this trait can never be fixed, as long as there are people that bully him for this trait suffer from it. Please do note we are talking about people bullying because of the diversion from their social norm not because they simply don't like the color black or have ideals that go against this sort of expression. The consequences of this kind of bullying are the greatest someone who is not accepted as him or herself might correct him or herself to the norm as far as seizing to exist (to those who don't know who I am talking about. I'm talking about suicide). I should note that bullying because of these perks are usually well know because most people know about ugly and beautiful and thin and fat and black or white which in all cases are to some extend bullied.
The bullying caused by active social correction that is correctable:
This is a hard one. If someone has done something stupid like if a guy asks a girl out that dislikes him and denies him in front of people falls under active social correction. But people might forget about this happening and even if this trait is not actually corrected (this guy might still not choose his timing in asking girls out well) the bullying can stop. To make things overall more conceivable I decided to (in this case) say that a trait is corrected when the correction stops. So if everyone forgets about this one bad move the correction is over. This does not count however of people accept the active trait of a person because that would defy the point of noting it. The consequences of this might be teaching a person about this perk once again at cost of self-esteem.
The bullying cause by active social correction that is not correctable:
One's action or persistent choice of actions do not comply to the social norm and therefor someone is bullied. As said before the mere remembrance or saving on a computer or paper for example of an active social perk that does not comply with the norm falls under this category. Some time ago a girl committed suicide because she made one active social mistake. This mistake was saved and thus not correctable (not by her at least). This kind of bullying though acting on a thin line between correctable and not correctable is just as the passive social correction that is not correctable very heavy loaded with consequences. The girl mentioned earlier committed suicide, in this case not because she didn't comply to the norm as a person, it was because she could not escape from her one mistake. Bullying on this level is usually done by keeping the one active social trait noted and always confronting the person who made the mistake with it, this time suicide is less cause by not confirming by the social norm but merely but the lack of hope for a better future. One cannot fix this mistake and will be tormented until it is forgotten.( If the active social trait is frequent it can be classified as a passive social trait that is correctable like a habit).
As a conclusion I would to note that all these words where written out of experience of one singular person. I would like people to correct me if I am wrong. Also I do know that the consequences I noted aren't always complete, this is for a large part caused by the fact that misery will always lead to certain actions and traits and I cannot really cover them all due to the fact most of them are cause by active social traits leading to passive social traits leading to the consequence. I hope to make one think about this article and discuss its contents.
Thank you for your time.